Everyone has at least one bad habit, whether it be nail-biting, swearing, picking your nose, etc. but here I will show you how to form your own positive habit that will help you reach your goal(s). 🙂
Step 1: Start Only ONE Habit
Working on starting more than one habit at a time will ultimately lead to disaster for most people. This happens because as humans, we have a hard time committing ourselves to something 100% when we have other things to focus on. Chose your most desired/needed habit you would like to form and put all of your willpower into forming this new positive habit.
2. Commit To Your Habit For At Least 31 Days.
Have you ever heard that old saying “21 Days To Make Or Break A Habit”? Turns out, it’s actually true, but to make sure that you definitely get into the rhythm of performing your habit, you should force yourself into action daily for the next 31 days. Remember that some habits are easier to form, while others are not.
3. Anchor Your New Habit To An Old One
Do you go to the same coffee shop everyday on your way to work? Do you pass by the same gym everyday when you drop off the kids? These are habits that you have already formed, and as such, you have no difficulty doing these same things everyday. Try to anchor your new habit to one you already have. As an example, say your new habit is going to the gym 3 times a week. Remember that gym that you pass every time you drop the kids off at school? 3 days a week, force yourself to put on your gym clothes and throw your gym bag in the car before you drop your kids off. You are much more likely to turn around and head to the gym if you are already prepared and don’t have to add another trip to your schedule to pick up your things.
4. IT’S NOT ALL OR NOTHING
You do not have to be perfect when trying to form your new habit. Forgot to go to the gym one day? You didn’t just get launched back to square one. You are still on your way to forming your new habit. Jump back on your horse and make a double commitment to yourself. Take baby steps on your way to forming your new habit. You WILL screw up, so just remember it’s not the end of the world if you make a mistake.
5. Make Room For Obstacles
Think of all the “ifs”. If you want to run through the park everyday, but it’s raining, what are you going to do? What if you have a really bad day and don’t want to do perform your new habit? Come up with a plan B for when your habit cannot be accomplished. You can’t run for a full hour today? Run for 15 mins. You will still form your habit even if you have to cut your training short.
6. Make Yourself Accountable
You really want to form your new habit. You start committing to your new habit for the first two weeks, then you skip a day, then two days, and poof! No more new habit. To make sure that this doesn’t happen to you, don’t expect yourself to make sure you do what you need to. Instead, have other people hold you accountable. Post your runs on social media. Tell everyone your plan for forming a new habit. If you are more personal, maybe tell your partner, have them support you and hold you accountable on your journey to your new positive habit. Promising other people that you are going to do something makes you 100% more willing to do it.
7. Reward Yourself
Forming a new habit doesn’t and shouldn’t have to be stressful and serious. You went to the gym 3 days a week for the last 2 weeks? Go reward yourself with that new purse, that new dress, that new book. You deserve a treat after all your hard work, and with luck you might even condition yourself to want do your habit more often if it means you get rewarded.
8. Absorb Your New Habit Into Your Life
Are you trying to get yourself to the gym 3 times a week to be able to show off your body during the summer just to go back to being a couch potato when your swimsuit gets packed away for the winter? Habits like these will be much harder to form because you have already told yourself “It’ll be over soon!” A real habit is definite, and will become a part of your routine forever. You need to go from simply doing your habit to making it a part of who you are and what you do. You need to become the girl/guy that goes to the gym every week to be healthy, not the girl/guy that wants to drop a few pounds.
Here is a really helpful book that I have used to form new habits in the past. 🙂
Hopefully these steps will help you form your new positive habit. Thank You for reading.
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